We all have a price tag. No no, I don't mean you gold diggers, that's another blog. Currency doesn't always come in the form of a Gucci Bag and a paid car note. The payment can be in the form of emotion, mental, or physical assets. We all have a price, rather we want to admit it. The question is do you know how much your worth?
How much attention do you need in a relationship to feel wanted? How much quality time do you need to stay connected? How much communication is necessary to earn/acquire trust? How come we don't add these things up before or DURING a relationship! I was recently talking with a new friend, and she expressed to me her frustration with her marriage. I wont go into details, because her story could easily be any person's story (man or woman). Basically one person's needs are not being met and love is on the rocks. She wants to leave but there are life aspects that make her stay (children, stability, etc.), which is normal for any relationship. Change is scary, unpredictable, and a hard choice to make. But its also usually the best thing you could do for a sour relationship.
So how much is your worth? Don't we all deserve a peaceful home, trusting relationship, and positive role models for our children? When women OR men stay in an unhappy home, we teach our children how tolerate bull shhht. We show them that it's normal for mommy to talk down to daddy. We show them that its ok for daddy to lay hands on mommy. We give example day after day of how little we expect for our lives. Instead we should be showing what a healthy relationship really entails. Prove to your self that you want better, and have the power to obtain better.
Challenge yourself to find your worth. Rather your dating or married, if you find yourself questioning your situation, its probably time to find out your worth. Write down what you bring to a relationship (your assets) and then what you need in return. And no this list should not include physical qualities, because THOSE types of list can keep your butt single for longer then know lmao. Ask your self are if you're tolerating this relationship for the children, bills, or comfort. (Which is never the right answer!) Find out if your happiness and mental health is where you need it to be. Quit placing yourself on the Dollar Store shelf when you're worth more then gold.
So again I ask, do you know your worth?
Ladae
This entire post is great, but I love, love, love the last sentence of this piece.... Quit placing yourself on the Dollar Store shelf when you're worth more then gold. Great conversation starter piece as well, keep up the excellent writing!
ReplyDeleteThanks Keesh, coming from a fellow Bloganista :) preciate the read!
ReplyDeleteWow thank you for this blog Tudy! I absolutely love this one. I was just speaking to someone about this very thing the other day.
ReplyDeleteThank ya Nicole, share and follow.. kiss the kids for me :)
ReplyDeleteWonderful blog. This is something I have discussed time and again with people of various genders. I'm one of the few people that seek and embrace change. I'm the one that will get up and move all the way across the country in a month, kids in tow. I'm also one who does not believe in staying in any negative situation for the benefit of others whether they be children, codependent partners, or whomever.
ReplyDeleteWhat I can say is... I've always known my worth but I haven't always demanded full price. I spent a lot of time trying to fit a mold that I knew would not completely satisfy me. I've spent a lot of time downplaying my intellect, ability to be self-sufficient, and general know-how to appease others. I've spent a lot of time holding in my thoughts and feelings so that others could live happily in their virtual reality. I've spent a lot of time taming my sexual prowess to avoid being too skilled and/or too insatiable for my partners.
Well...I've since owned all of my essence. I still fall short on 'getting' my full worth in return but I no longer accept those who cannot or will not put forth the effort in an attempt to do so. Maybe one day...I'll meet 'one' person as powerful as I and as full of the divine energy as I who can truly complement what I have to offer. Until then...I will enjoy my poly life...piecing together my return on worth partner by partner. :)