When Is The Right Time?

Parenting has got to be one of the hardest gig's in the world.  No paid vacations, no sick days, some of us don't even get flex time (shout out to the single parents.)  It doesn't help that television and technology exposes kids to things that mature them way too fast.  Sexting and Textual Harassment are terms that were born just this decade but already have been a serious issue.  And no matter how many times we (grown folks) say once u send a pix there's no telling where it ends up, I BET you we still sending risky pix to loved ones. Im guilty of it, but I don't ever plan to run for office so... :P But seriously, kids have WAY too much access to the Net.  PS3, Cellphones, Laptops, and computers in their bedrooms! And yall wonder why little Suzie has a Youtube Video of her dancing on a chair?  Webcam attached to the bed, and facebook page 2500 friends deep.  And parents ALLOW THIS to happen.
   My oldest daughter is 11 yrs old, and getting to that age where she is blossoming and definitely "smelling herself".  Pretty soon she will be a teenager and I can only pray that she doesn't do half the crazii shhht I did as a teen.  But I know to be ready for all sorts of drama.  In efforts to prepare myself I have been asking other parents when is the right time for certain things like Facebook page or even having their own computer.  In my house there is one computer and it stays in my room.  This way I will always know what goes on when they are online.  Some of my children's friends and cousins have FB pages already.  I think 15-16 yrs old is a good age for a page, but I'm sure my husband will disagree.  Never is most likely his answer, lol (protective daddy)  When is the right age for a FB page?
    An even harder question is when do you discuss Birth Control?  By the time children begin high school sex has already been a topic of discussion (or activity) amongst their friends. If your 14yr old daughter told you she was thinking about having sex (still a virgin) would you put her on the pill?  As soon as my mother found out I that I lost my virginity the first stop was the local clinic.  I got the full STD check and was put on BC pills instantly, age 15yrs old.  It did not make me have more sex, but it did make it easier to say "yes".  Some parent feel if you give them protection then they will have sex more often.  Other parents feel that safe is better than sorry.  What do yall think? 
Feedback por favor!
Ladae

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Thomastrius Williams

Author of Too Real For Fiction

Deja Vu

We almost turned around. Almost. But something told me that tonight wouldn't be the night for regrets. We slowly drove down the winding dark road, where even the high beam lights did not make much of a difference. The silence of the road was deafening. Why would they hold an event way out here?

“Are you sure we're going the right way?” my husband James inquired.

“The directions say eight miles down and on the right,” I calmly replied.

Moments later, a large mansion appeared from the trees. I breath a sigh of relief, while quickly reapplying a coat of Lip Glass. Pulling into the large circle drive way was intimidating alone. The valet person motioned for us to pull in front of the large water fountain that graced the front entry to the mansion.

“You ready for this?” I asked James.

“As ready as I'm going to be,” he reluctantly replied.

The large double doors almost seemed to open on their own, and from the dimly lit foyer, our host greeted us with a smile.

“Welcome to The Castle. My name is Davina, the hostess for the night,” she embraced both of us with a hug. “Is this your first time?”

We both nod our heads, still too shy to say much. Ms. Davina stood a beautiful five feet eleven inches of molten chocolate. Hair pulled back, revealing a her slender neck, coco eyes, and lips of a Egyptian Queen. My focus shifted to the sway of her hips, as she lead us to the sign-in table.

“Please read and sign. Tonight is open house, so no membership fee is due, but the cover is $20. Did you bring a bottle?” Davina's breath has a hint of mint as she whispered instructions into my ear. James hands her the money, while I signed our names on the line. Initialed the box that stated in bold print: You Are Aware this is a Sex Club.

Davina shows us to the changing room, where we change into our nightly attire. Mine consist of a pink corset and black mini skirt, recently purchased from Fredericks. While the husband opted for gray silk pajama pants and a black tee. I rubbed his soft bald head, as he helped close the strap on my metallic heals. His hands slid slowly up my calves, and softly up my thighs, followed by a gentle smack on my ass.

“So what do we do first little Mrs. Adventurous,” he joked.

True this had been my little conquest. I spent months looking for the right swinger group, found a few lifestyle friends, and now drove a nice hour south of Atlanta to this remote mansion. It took a few months of convincing, but I finally got the husband comfortable enough to take this erotic adventure with me.

“I say we take a tour. Let's see what, or who, there is to do,” I smirked, then lead James out of the changing room.

We ascend up the spiral stair case, illuminated with a crystal chandelier. The red wallpaper seemed to hummed “Get comfortable.” At the top of the stairs awaited a long hallway, lined with white doors, all closed. I gripped my husbands hand as he followed me to the first door. I place my hand on the cold silver knob and turn...

In The Wrong Body

     People can be so limited to their own mind.  The few things they were taught within 10yrs of life, is all they tend to remember, recite, and recycle no matter how much times have changed.  I recently read on a family memebers page that "God doesn't make mistakes" in reference to transgender men and women.   This person doesn't believe that God would trap a boy in a girl body, or vice versa.  When I asked how do explain the most evil people in the world, the reasoning (another wise tale from Pastor) "God made examples of evil."
    I had to stop myself from laughing. People who don't have access to other lifestyles can only recite whatever their grandma/pastor told them.  I never expect everyone to agree on all issues, that's what makes us a diverse world.  But if we close our mind to the fact that other people have their own truths, then that makes us ignorant.  I have seen with my own eyes young girls 6yrs old, from a strait 2 parent home, who refuse to play with dolls and wear dresses.  I have seen lil boys 10yrs old who sneak into mom's makeup and high heels, not really understanding why.  Those who have talked to adult transgendered people usually hear the same sad story, "I didn't feel like myself.  I hated trying to be what other wanted me to be."  Women who have tried to carve off their breast or duct tape them down out of disgust.  People kill themselves every day because they cant live with SELF.  Can u imagine that?  Most strait people can't.. so sad!
   Science states we all start out as a female embryo, and then within 6wks the clit turns into a penis, the ovaries drop down into testis. Testosterone which we all have, kicks in more, and VOILA; We have a lil boy!  So basically we're all start as women with the option to be male LMAO.  Women carry male traits, just like men carry ours.  Science has been able to explain for DECADES why transgendered men and women feel trapped in the wrong body.  But even still, strait people challenge this concept.  Even I come from a religious, strait home, and was drawn to boy clothes, short hair, and women WAY before I knew the term 'bisexual'.
   I know some people think things should be simple, but the reality is humans are SO COMPLEX.  No one simple cliche/scripture can make us simple.  Yes God makes mistakes (with gender assignment, Hitler, Bin Laden, Bad Parents, etc) like every day. YUP I SAID IT.  You can call them "examples of evil" if you want to but doesnt change the outcome.  Since the days of Sadam and Gomora, humans have had the ability to love ANY GENDER, be sexually explicit, and create their own identity.  Only thing that has really changed is now Doctors can snip, tuck, and sew parts on to make the body match the soul.  Guess God didn't have anything to do with plastic surgeons huh? lmao
Live You Life and Don't Try To Rationalize Others,
Ladae

Digital Destiny

   Yall remember pulling out the shoe box of old pix and laughing about hair styles, clothing, and even the plastic on grandma's couch?  Or how about those funny little stickers you could add to the picture as a thought bubble.  I use to drop so much film off at Rite Aid that eventually I earned unlimited free film lol.  That seems like ions ago, now that everything is digital. My photo albums literally stop 4 years ago, right around the time I got my first really good camera phone.  Whenever the kids take school photo's, I scan em right into my computer or smart phone, and send the hard copies back to the school.  The thought of actually purchasing envelopes and stamps to mail Grandma family pictures almost seems unheard of doesn't it? 

  Recently I lost my awesome lil camera phone and have resorted to using one-use flash camera's until I replace my digital toy.  It cracks me up that people forget that they have to look thru the hole, and NO there isnt a review screen!  Whatever you capture is what you capture, which is why we use to all be so excited to go pick up the pix and quickly flip thru em all.  But now we can redo the pix 101 times, crop, edit, and enhance it all before its sent off to its new home on Facebook/Twitter. smdh

   Makes me wonder what will we hand down to our grandchildren?  The average child will never write a check, since Debit cards are now standard.  They wont know how to properly fill out an envelope, since email is the norm (and one day we may lose postal service all together lol).  You can forget about them being able to read a map, with GPS and Google Maps taking over our steering wheels.  All these computerized things that make life so much easier are also removing a lot of life treasures.  It's sort of sad when I think about it.

   I think we all should make a pledge to at least get family photo's once a year, YES printed out on paper lbvs.  I know I am at least 5 years behind on a new family picture, but planning to fix that by the end of this year.  While technology is certainly a benefit, there are some things in life that just can't be replaced.  Memory cards are great, but they will never have the same impact as an old photo album full of memories.

Ladae

Why LaLa Land?

la-la land n. A place renowned for its frivolous activity. A state of mind characterized by unrealistic expectations or a lack of seriousness. 

I love the definition from Answers.com!  It is so fitting, but there are 2 real reason's I named this blog "LaLa Land".  First reason being in my book, "Too Real For Fiction; The Memoir," my nickname is 'Lala,' the rebellious teen with a lot drive (and in some ways im still that rebellious teen HA).  Second reason, well if you know me then you know I create quite a unique life every day.  Living in Atlanta has opened many doors, and allowed me to experience many things.  Some activities seem unreal, and other's might consider my thoughts frivolous, but regardless of other's opinion I am ENJOYING LIFE!  

If you are new to my blog, WELCOME, and be ready for some funny, wild, informative, humorous, and creative blogging.   Just a few heads up, I don't sugar coat, and I enjoy healthy debates.  Share your opinion, but be ready for my reply LOL!  Back in the early days of blogging, you could find me on Yahoo 360 cutting up, and well I'm still the same me! So get comfortable (click FOLLOW up above), share the page, and show some love.. I'm BACK!!!


Ladae