Real Daddy Report

So many times we hear about what a father has not done for his kids.  We rarely see the praise reports.  But not today!  Who says we have to wait until Fathers Day to be thankful for an everyday average dad? I know there is no such thing as a perfect parent.  We all make mistakes and have to adjust our parenting skills all the time.  But its always a beautiful thing when we do get it right.  

Last night my oldest daughter wrote a note to her dad asking for $20 for a school book fair.  The note read "I want to buy three books, plus some new school supplies."  Hubby got home late from work and didn't really read the note.  This morning my daughter again ask for the money, but sleeping daddy said, "No, I can get books and supplies from the dollar store!"  Of course my daughter drops her head and walks out the room upset.  A couple hours later I said to the hubby, "I remember when I got book fair forms, and my dad was too cheap to give me the money. She needs books, they need supplies.  If I had the money I would give it to her."

At first he was a little offended.  He mentioned not having book fair money either growing up.  To that I replied, are we trying be like our parents or better then them?  Nothing more was said about the topic, and hubby left to run errands.  One hour later he walks in the door with a bag of new books, a bag of supplies, and even stopped at daughters school to give her some book fair money.  Thats a real dad right there!  I'm sure he made her day just by showing up.  I think its important for fathers to bond with their daughter.  Daddy daughter dates are more helpful then any dad will ever know.  I'm just glad that we as parents can know when to put ego aside, and do the right thing.  And for that I'm thankful to celebrate Fathers Day everyday, even in November!

Ladae

Presence

 Dedicated to Shirley Lee Conrad 

4-6-1967 ~ 8-18-11

God chose you to be his angel.

Although my mind is in disbelief.

We thank you for leaving your presence.

To help transition the pain with ease.

Your joy forever felt in our hearts.

Your smile replicated on children's face.

Your warmth left on every wall.

Your happiness fills this space.

Giving thanks for the memories,

of happiness and joy you give.

Today we celebrate your life,

That you so beautifully lived.

Physically you're in a happier place.

Your presence will never cease.

Gone but never forgotten,

May your soul Rest In Peace.

Ladae Williams

Cut Throat, No BS Allowed

Turning the other cheek is the mature thing to do, I know I know. But I only have two cheeks on my face. After two chances, the next cheeks you will see is my backside as I walk away.  I am one of those I can forgive, but not gonna forget type people.  I use to allow people several chances to self correct.  We all make mistakes, and sometimes behavior patterns are just that, patterns.  Some folks try to "change" other's, some folks just deal with it, and others (like myself) tend to let go.  

I know it can seem cut throat as hell, but as I get older I realized people don't change easily.  Hell even I have habits that I'm not willing to change, and I make that very clear with every friendship/relationship.  It's been almost 3yrs since I have had a real conversation with my own mother and sister. I had to let them go after several "chances" to accept me for being who I am.  I am a very proud, outspoken, sarcastic, bi-sexual mother, in an open marriage.  I understand that's a hard concept for a religious family to swallow.  So I allowed them time, and I turned cheeks to their harsh words and judgments on my lifestyle.  But after 5yrs of my currently 10yr relationship I had to let them go.  Yes I forgave them for things said about me, and to my children. However that doesn't mean I need to allow another opportunity to hurt or disappoint me again. 

Over the past years, my tolerance for bullshit has diminished.  Being a Gemini gives me the unique ability to communicate very well. It's one of the easiest things to manage, but its also can be the hardest thing to do.  Without communication, everything from business to personal can fail.  If I can't trust someone to open their mouth and just share thoughts, then what can I trust? When I start having to ask myself that question, then it's usually time for me to exit stage left.  It might not be the right thing to do, and some may not understand.  Being cut throat has saved me from a lot of bad situations.  But more importantly it has allowed me to live in peace.  Which is what everyone deserves right?

Ladae 

Mid-Year Resolutions, Why Wait Til December?

Every New Years people announce their goals for the upcoming year.  By the month of March, over 50% of those people haven't taken one single step towards accomplishing those goals. It's now July, and before you know it, leaves will be falling from the trees.  So technically we all should be about half way done with our resolutions right? Wrong! 

Wrong at least for myself, I am so far behind, its sad.  All writing has been on hold since football began in January.  After dislocating my arm in football practice, working out and typing became difficult.  I probably gained a good 10 pounds since the injury, but no time is better then present to get rid of it!  In two months my Ace will be getting married.  I definitely do not want 101 pictures in a tight bridesmaid dress!  So it is now essential that I get on the ball.  I also need to complete and publish my cookbook.  I know its going to be a challenge due to funds, but not impossible with the correct budget.  It has also been on my heart to start Pride Pillows again!  Pillows wasn't really on my "2011 To-Do List", but when your intuition speaks more then once, you probably should listen.  So yes I need to give myself a spanking, as my Bella would say lol.  It is time to get-r-dun and complete some goals!  Slow start doesn't mean I can't finish the race strong right? #Take2

Ladae

Polyamory vs Swinging.. What's The Difference?

     "Polyamory is just another term for cheating!" says the misinformed friend. Most people know what polygamy means (one person with many spouses), but many aren't as aware of the term polyamory.  According to the Wikipedia, polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. What distinguishes polyamory from traditional forms of non-monogamy (aka cheating) is an ideology that openness, goodwill, intense communication, and ethical behavior should prevail among all the parties involved. Polyamorists tend to see the modern American nuclear family as an aberration in the course of human history and believe that larger, more complex extended families or tribes have been the natural human family structure.  Children are seen as being better off when they have a broad range of adult role models to relate to, instead of a single, monogamously married couple.  Polyamorists believe in freedom of choice and consider Polyamory as a viable alternative to monogamy.

     Swinging is defined as recreational sexual activity, also called "sport sex" where partner(s) or participant(s) agree to have casual sex with each other(s).  There is usually no emotional involvement. Swingers generally practice recreational sex activities without the development of love, affection or personal intimacy.  Swinging is a form of monogamy in which usually two primary partners agree to have casual sex with other couples or singles. Polyamory and  Swing communities are allies under the alternative lifestyles banner. Many swingers have transitioned to Polyamory through their desire to be emotionally committed in a multipartnered relationship.

     Human beings have been on this earth for a long long time.  Monogamy is a rather new concept when you look at history in entirety.  Kings and Queens had maidens and suitors openly.  African Tribes have large polygamist families, and whole heartedly believe it takes a village to raise a child. Muslims men still are legally allowed to have more then one wife. And I won't even harp on the divorce rate which stems greatly from infidelity.   Maybe just MAYBE monogamy isn't natural.. besides humans aren't the only mammals that have sex just for pleasure.  By all means, I am NOT saying monogamy isn't possible, but it sure aint easy.  If the one you love can accept you being intimate with others, then maybe the lifestyle is a better choice, rather then creeping and cheating.  

Balance Act

I really need to stop neglecting my blog.  This year is already on the move, is it really March already??  Well at least I have an awesome excuse.  I decided at the young age of 30, to tryout for a Xplosions professional womens football league.  Full contact people, not flag or tag!  The first few weeks consisted of a lot of conditioning, drills, running, and stamina building.  Our first game is in April, so the next few weeks will be a serious learning experience for someone who has never played football.  Back in the day, I did every sport from swimming, softball, volleyball, cheerleader, basketball, and gymnastics.  I've always been a sports fan, and HELLA competitive so why not football? 
But now the balancing act needs to be top notch form.  Wife duties, mommy stuff, employee hours, traveling, parties, and social time is all on the table.  I'm even thinking about bringing back Pride Pillows.  Oh, and I MUST finish my cookbook!  I hit a roadblock with color pictures, but I haven't given up.  Any type of publication with color print is going to be a little more work then a memoir/novel thats for sure! 
I'm a firm believer in finishing anything I start, so I will make it happen.  Whoever said 30's is old.. LIED!  Honestly it doesn't matter what age, you can always take on a new challenge.  The body can do anything, convincing your mind is the hard part.  Besides we have 24 hours in a day, so why not make every hour count? 
Ladae

Does The Bullet Have You Pu$$y-Whipped?

Yessir *Raises Hand* I am clearly sprung on the cyber skin flicker bullet. Oh don't act like I'm the only one, nine out of ten women have used, or currently use a sex toy.  I've tried a few different versions, the jelly dongs, the hard plastic vibrator, the Rabbit, TickleToes (dont ask lmao), and a few others have cum and gone.  But for some reason I've always come back to the faithful Bullet.

Well today I came to a realization; I am really dependent on the dayum thing!  As we all know Bullets don't last very long, so when mine died yesterday I was kinda devastated.. yes DEVASTATED.  I don't know about you all, but having an orgasm is on my daily activity list.. with or without assistance.  So this morning I attempted to go "old school" and manually achieve climax.  Let's just say that didn't last long, after 5 minutes my fingers were totally pissed at me.  But I refuse to go out like a punk, so what do I do?  I grabbed a petite screw driver, popped open the back of the bullet, peeled the plastic off the wires, reconnected them to the circuits, and VOILA.  I had to laugh at the fact that it was easier to fix it then to masturbate LBVS.  Dayum shame how many of them I threw away, probably cud of saved myself hella money.  Two minutes later I was smiling with both sets and ready to continue my day..aye!
So yes I will be the first to admit that my toy has my pussy whipped.  And I'm sure a few boyfriends/spouses have toy envy lmao.  Raise your hand if you wanna attend Toys Anonymous  next Wednesday night..smdh

It's been a while since I blogged, but yall know I had to come back.. MUAH
Ladae